The Psychology of Winning

Denis Waitley

The 10 Qualities of a Total Winner

Quality 1:  Positive Self-Expectancy

"Life is a self fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."

Quality one will talk about positive self-expectancy which is the step toward success. One should have faith in themselves because it only brings greater joy toward humanity. Life is full of opportunities, so if you don't win there will always be a second chance and more. As people we are expected to do our very best. The quote explains how humans aren't able to control every situation and outcome they confront because it's impossible to determine whether it will be good or not. But one thing you may be able to control is your attitude and how you deal with it. Those who are worthy will always come out as winners and never have a doubt on their ability. Ways to apply this quality into my life is by thinking positive, having joy, and lastly never have doubt about my abilities. 

Quality 2: Positive Self-Motivation

"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."

Quality two will inform you about positive self-motivation. What comes to mind when you hear this word. Motivation means to have the desire to improve or to meet certain standards. You are a committed person willing to achieve their goal. There's nothing more important then being true to yourself and having the ability to keep going and pursuing goals. Only true winners will find different ways to motivate themselves through the inside to be better. An example would be when you are trying to finish a project but you don't know where or how to start it. Instead of just thinking about it, work on it and come up with ideas throughout the project. The quote explains how having a strong self-image can bring the best preparation for success. Have a positive soul and you'll bring the best out of yourself. Have friends and family who will be there for you during the difficult and easy times. You will learn each time.

Quality 3: Positive Self-Image

True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings.

 Having positive self-direction is when you are prepare and know what you want. Those who are prepare know how to use their common sense without having to be told by their parents or friends. You may think it's impossible to have your own self-direction but you're wrong. There's about 15 different ways and the first one is taking initiative which means you do it first without being told, the next one is accepting responsibility meaning you accept the learning and work you do, and lastly is having persistent meaning you will stick to it and not give up. This will take time and space but true winners never give up. The quote explains how having effort and courage are just the first steps and without purpose and direction you're lost. You will need to apply all four to be someone successful. Be your own influence at times because it will be helpful to guide yourself and take action. I can apply this quality into my daily life by having direction towards what I want. It will help me see a different perspective of the world because I won't have the help that my family provides me with, which is a good thing.




Quality 4: Positive Self-Direction

You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends.

Having positive self-direction is when you are prepare and know what you want. Those who are prepare know how to use their common sense without having to be told by their parents or friends. You may think it's impossible to have your own self-direction but you're wrong. There's about 15 different ways and the first one is taking initiative which means you do it first without being told, the next one is accepting responsibility meaning you accept the learning and work you do, and lastly is having persistent meaning you will stick to it and not give up. This will take time and space but true winners never give up. The quote explains how having effort and courage are just the first steps and without purpose and direction you're lost. You will need to apply all four to be someone successful. Be your own influence at times because it will be helpful to guide yourself and take action. I can apply this quality into my daily life by having direction towards what I want. It will help me see a different perspective of the world because I won't have the help that my family provides me with, which is a good thing.



Quality 5: Positive Self Control

Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals

Self control means to have the ability to regulate one's emotions, thoughts, and behaviors when one faces a complication. But in this case those who want to be successful will sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. An example of people using self control is when you encounter a difficult problem on a test, at work or just on your home as well. The quote is explaining if you learn how to use self control then you can accomplish anything, especially when you encounter difficulties. I can apply this quality into my life by trying not to get nervous when I am going to present in front of the class or panel. If I do it just shows that I'm not ready.

Quality 6: Positive Self-Discipline

You have to discipline yourself or else someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives.

 Discipline is the practice of training someone to obey rules or a code of behavior. Now self discipline is the ability to controls ones's feeling and overcome one's weaknesses. Those who are winners don't let anyone gain power over them because only they can. They're able to think for themselves and understand the importance of discipline. There are ways one can follow this quality and that's by scheduling you work day, avoiding discouragement, Mark your progress, or have role models that are willing to help you when things get rough and you have to go through some obstacles. Why is self-discipline important? Its important because this shows a sign of inner strength and control of yourself, actions, and reactions. This is one of the important requirements for achieving goals because you gain the power to follow them through without changing your mind. 

Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem

Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.

Self- esteem reflects an individuals overall subjective emotional evaluation. It shows that you are confidence in your abilities and giving yourself respect. Certain people are willing to help others build up their self esteem, so that they can feel good about themselves. You fill yourself with positive words in order to gain control and become a stronger person. An example of this quality would be when you start your first day of high school and see how everyone around you is older. This is the first step towards not being afraid and showing confidence. Always treat yourself after you have completed  a task. The quotes explains how accomplishing something will always bring up your self-esteem and self confidence as well. Which I think is true because they are an important concept of the human life. I can apply this quality into my life by ignoring all the hate and getting it out of my system.



Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimension

Total winners like in the present. They know that now is all there is. They don’t get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is the stuff going on today, now.

Quality 9: Positive Self-Awareness

Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination.

 Positive self awareness means to have conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, or motives. I read that self awareness is the key cornerstone to emotional intelligence. It has the ability to monitor our emotions and thoughts from moment to moment, so that we can understand one another and get the outcome that we would like. Becoming self-aware is the an early step in the creation of life you want, your future. An example of this quality would be when you are headed to college after you have just graduated from high school. You will need to understand, that there will be a few changes in your life because now you have to control you life without the help of your parents.  The quote explains how having self awareness will lead you towards being a champion and I believe that is true because you'll need confidence withing yourself to bring the best out of you into the world. I can apply this quality into my daily life by trying or learning new techniques that can improve my confidence.



Quality 10: Positive Action

Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other

This is the last quality of the psychology of winning and I will explain to you what I think it means. Positive action is when a person takes the steps to help or encourage others in different ways.An example of this quality would be when you attend a parade and stand up for what you believe is right. You have the courage to inspire and be heard. The quote explains how having positive thoughts and actions, will give you positive results. It is important that you know how to be a motivation to others. The word positive means to be clear and definite, so there's no doubting yourself. I can apply this quality into my life by always thinking on the bright side and ignore the negative comments or obstacles being thrown at me. One can follow this quality by doing what is right or just having a positive mind.